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Sunday, July 6, 2008

Oh no he didn't...

I need your opinion. Last night Foster Son stayed all night at my BIL's home. Foster Son recently had video games taken out of his life by his therapist. He was HIGHLY addicted to it. He was skipping meals, playing til his eyes turned red, and ignoring friends/family in order to play. We restricted him to 30 minutes daily. He would jump out of bed and play for 30 minutes and then sit in the chair and do nothing. It was like he was waiting for the next day to get here so he could play again. Anyway, it was bad. Since removing video games he is playing again and using his imagination. It is good.

Well, last night my SIL called and asked if he was supposed to be playing. I said "No." Well, he was already playing and when asked if he was allowed to play he replied, "Dad let's me some times, but only if Mom doesn't know." Well, I decided to let him play and deal with it when he gets home today. Help! What should I do? Here's some of my thoughts
  • Not say anything.
  • Talk to him about it and give him a punishment for disobeying me and his therapist.
  • Wait until tomorrow and bring it up in therapy.
  • Ground Dr. Hubby!!!

Unfortunately, those are my ideas. What would you do?

We are visiting a new church tonight. I hope this one feels like home to my soul.


Tiaras & Tantrums said...

ground hubbie for sure!!!

Manga Dork said...

PUNISH HIM!!!mwahhahahahhaha

The Momster said...

That's a hard one. I'd probably talk to Dr. Hubby and let him know what's going on/make sure we are on the same page and then I'd decide from there. Maybe bringing it up in therapy since that's a neutral ground... keep us posted.

Terri said...

I agree with the momster. Great Advice.

Marilyn said...

Yikes, I would do option 2, 3, and 4! Foster Son must know that the rules are the rules, therapist needs to know what is going on, and Dad knows what is going on and still chose to not follow the rules. Have fun dealing with all this, you definately got your hands full!

*Merrianne* said...

I would ask sweet hubby what he thinks about that comment...to see if it is true or not. Then work together to solve the problem. :)

Good Luck! I hope the church you visited was HOME to your Soul :) If not, come down here & go to my ward....You Would LOVE it! :)

Jan said...

So very sorry. One of my sons biggest regrets, was games. Tell your son that one.

Hubby needs to be talked too. You have to be on the same page. Hope you find the right church. It is so nice when you do. Good luck with it all.

Take care Scrappy and have a great week.

scrappyhappy08 said...

Sounds like you have your hands full!!! Hope you come up with a solutiion...:)

Mechelle said...

Hi Scrappy, I am Back! Missed your blog. I would ask Hubby his side, as Merrianne said.

I feel kids need to feel natural consequences for their actions. Once my son stabbed his brother with his dinner fork. It was not intentional but I took the privilege of eating with a fork away for a week. My son could only eat food that could be eaten with a spoon. By the time the was over, he was sick of soup. It was such a good punishment and he is very careful with his fork now.

You, Hubby and his therapist can come up with a great solution, I am sure. Let us know.

PS it sounds like your son is a normal little boy.

Frumpy Luv said...

Um - tough one. I agree with the comments about finding out what hubbie's ideas are and what's going on there, to work together as a team.

Maybe I'm a softie - but I think sometimes its fun to have a break from the normal rules ...?????? I suppose that's when you are in control of when those breaks happen, though.

I don't know. It's a tough one. Let us know how it all turns out. Good luck!

Colarusso Family said...

yeah, i'd say check w/ hubby first to see if he actually said that. most kids will try something like that not thinking that you'd check.

If it's true, talk to dr. hubby first. explain that it's akin to someone telling one of his patients that they don't really have to take their medicine that dr. hubby prescribed. That puts it on his level.

next, if it is true, dr. hubby should sit down with foster son and explain that he was wrong to go behind your back like that.

next, foster son need to face consequences for breaking the rule, and for lying about dr hubby (if it was a lie).

We haven't read your blog long enough to know, but, you didn't mention if foster son has any kind of behavioral/emotional classification. If he does (we don't need to know) then it might be something that needs to be brought to the attention of therapist.

If he has no "issues", then he could just be being a typical 8 year old boy trying to buck the system!!

There are a lot of "if"s in there, but that's my 2 cents, hope it helps!

Danielle's husband